She recently told Billboard “I don’t consider myself a feminist.” It shows.
‘Dear Future Husband’ was featured on her album ‘Title’ which was released in January 2015. However this month the song made it into the spotlight following the release of its music video, which currently holds 10 million views.
The song and accompanying video are overwhelmingly problematic, and what is scary is that women are listening to it, and not realizing how oppressive it is.
‘Dear Future Husband’ enforces gender stereotypes that feminists have been battling for years. Trainor states she will “Buy groceries” for her man and that will make her the “perfect wife.” I realize that women are the primary consumers in the vast majority of households (because we haven’t yet overthrown the idea that it is always the woman’s responsibility to take care of the housework), but buying groceries is what makes a wife perfect? Incredibly sexist as it teaches women the household should be their responsibility. This idea is perpetuated in the video as Trainor is shown in the video dressed in retro housewife attire, scrubbing a kitchen floor with no indication of irony. Housework should be the shared responsibility of all the able bodied members of a household. How can we wonder why the double burden still exists when we are being fed songs that maintain gender stereotypes?
Even the title of the song is problematic! It teaches children that men are born to be husbands and women are born to be wives; we should not assume this is the course people will take.
Unfortunately, the song and accompanying video are not just damaging to women, but also to men. The video depicts a suitor for Trainor ‘failing’ after he cannot hit the top on a high striker. What does this tell men about their self-worth? Trainor may as well have sung “You’re not a man worthy of a woman unless you fit the gender stereotype of strength.”
There is one saving grace to this song – a line in the first verse that goes “You got that 9 to 5, but baby so do I.” Thank goodness Meghan Trainor recognises women work now, and that we’re not still in the 1920s.
It isn’t especially shocking that Trainor has released a song so grossly anti-feminist considering her song writing history. Trainor’s first popular single ‘All About That Bass’ shames women with slimmer physiques, describing them as “Skinny b****es.” It appears Trainor does not understand that you don’t have to shame one body type to make another seem acceptable– she just can’t seem to spit out the self-assured lyrics without spitting on slimmer women. Obviously “Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top” if you have the same figure as Meghan Trainor. She also stated it was okay to be big, but only because “boys like a little more booty to hold at night.” Self-worth based on whether men find you attractive is pretty flimsy; we shouldn’t need verification from other people to be confident in how we look.
Ultimately, both of the songs are heteronormative, obnoxious and sexist, but the disguise as a swirly rainbow lollipop of girl power makes the world accept Trainor as a pop princess. I would encourage you all not to buy Trainor’s album or even one of her singles, her music is damaging and she should not be supported.